People have given me generalizations and timelines of how they planned their wedding. I’ve received feedback that most people (around the college-age) have planned their wedding in the usual recommended timeline: sixteen to nineteen months. For older couples, I’ve had general figures of shorter engagements anywhere from five to nine months. That being said, Tom and I decided to have a short engagement. When I immediately began searching for a checklist I noticed that many were super conformist to the strict sixteen-nineteen month. I definitely referred to those lists because the attention to details were great, and I estimated that I could have it MOSTLY nailed down in two weeks.
Furthermore, almost immediately after my engagement, Jenna (our weddings are months apart) immediately shot me “practical wedding” blog links that have been LIFE SAVERS! I also managed to read another blog post on planning a wedding on a short timeline.
I do think it’s funny to point out that the same people who usually questioned “IF” I’d ever settle down and get married, are the same ones to ask me the following question, “Why exactly is your engagement so short?”
Here are a few myth vs. fact from personal life experience for anyone who HASN’T BEEN PLANNING SINCE BIRTH and the other people that aren’t on the 4-YEAR COLLEGE TRACK—-that wedding planning is doable under ANY timeline.
Myth: First Choice Venues are impossible. Fact: They are difficult, but not impossible.
Venues (of course) are a big-ticket item. A lot of people don’t even worry about it, and just get married in a church. I don’t blame ya, but if you do want somewhere different, then planning on a short time line can seem like a daunting task. I come from Liddell persistence stock, and if you are flexible on your venue type, you’ll find a place. To clarify—if you’ve ALWAYS wanted to get married at this waterfront country boathouse that 5 wedding blogs have deemed—-“wedding worthy” you may run into trouble. On the other hand, if you have an broad idea: outdoor venue, indoor venue, beach venue, etc. You’ll be able to find a great place! Your increasing chances of finding a venue perfect for a wedding all depends on your flexibility of dates and of course budget. Be open to friends venue suggestions, and you’ll either find a place that will suit your needs, or a venue may come back to contact you concerning a cancellation. My personal takeaway from this experience is that I do agree with the wedding blogs: venues are the hardest part.
Seriously, once you’ve secured a venue—-all hell could break loose, and you’ll be sitting there staring at the screen going
Myth: The devil is in the details. Fact: Depends on the details.
I’m surprised at how complex wedding planning has become. When I attend weddings, I remember if the food was good, if the desserts were tasty, and if I got a party favor. I remember “ooh—and ahhhing” and trying to guess what it might have cost. Yet, I still can’t quite remember EVERY. LITTLE. detail. Are all details necessary? Will you be an outcast from society if you don’t choose the right wedding cake flavor? I just can’t get over how many people rant on blogs about how there wedding did not turn out like the photo-shoot perfect lighting that Pinterest shows. Pinterest is one of my favorite digital creations because they are suppose to help you with inspiration of ideas—–not be concrete-stone replications. Maybe that’s the librarian in me? I use it for reference, and not for the exact science (unless I’m looking up a specific science experiment) or if I REALLY wanna do a DIY craft. I digress, I have fun planning small details, and MAY overlook some big details (that could concern or may be important to different people). Yet, that’s what make weddings so awesome, the unique-ness comes from whatever details are most important to the couple and how they choose to show that. That’s it.
On to my favorite Part!
Myth: Wedding dress shopping is a nightmare. Fact: It was a new experience. Embrace it. Be Open.
AHH! I found my dress without my mom. 😦 I really did have designs to go wedding dress shopping with my mom! It’s okay because we can still go shopping together for her dress. YAY! My mom was so cute and said she felt like she was there with all the “new technology” of being able to send her pictures of different dresses (she has a smarrrttt phone). I went wedding dress shopping with two of my soon-to-be family in-laws: Tom’s sister Jenny, and his cousin Matt’s wife Katie. Going dress shopping was an awesome bonding experience. Both girls took charge on helping me narrow down what I would want to try on, what options to keep open—and what wedding dress wants that I should stand firm on.
That being said—-I found a dress. At a random bridal trunk sell. I will say, that shopping for a dress is like shopping for a kitty cat—-you will just know. The moment it was hanging on a rack, I fell in love with it and *crossed my fingers* hoping it would fit. The better bonus is that my mom and I actually like the dress. The biggest bonus is—it’s over. The most “important” moment—-was finished in one complete day, over in an hour session. WITH NO BUYER’S REMORSE.
I will say that EVERY GIRL as a rite of passage should have a David’s Bridal Shopping experience. No, I did not get my dress from there. Yet, I say it should be a rite of passage because (if you’re like me) and mainstream trends concerning wedding dresses don’t appeal to you—-it’s fun to just go and try on dresses you’d never wear.
The customer service was SUPER perplexed at my state of being. They didn’t understand the following:
1) I didn’t want any bling. Honey, Bling ain’t my thang.
2) They did not understand why I wanted something “simple”
It was just an amazing amount of (what I thought of as) fun moments as I just thought in amazement at how solidly we buy into whatever is advertized from the wedding industry.
The only breastplate of armour I would like to own should hopefully not be sewn into my wedding dress. I would prefer it on a design outfit of my choosing. If I could further rant, my bridal advice is to not get your hopes set on something you’ve pinned as the BE ALL-END ALL DRESS! However it looks on the model will not necessarily be the same fit on your figure. I did not pin down EXACTLY what I wanted, and had some strong options of what I DIDN’T want. It was a great middle-ground to help me pick a dress.
Now—-for the real fun—-spicin’ up the details.